Being Twenty-Something
Hey everyone. Here's something I chanced upon online yesterday and I thought I'd share it with all of you, cos I found I could SO relate to so much of it, it's almost as if they were my own thoughts! Yikes. Here's the article:
They call it the "Quarter-Life Crisis". It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing it too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere but that they are as confused as you.
You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.
Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't.
One minute you are insecure and the next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused.
Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. One-night-stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.
You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!
What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.
They call it the "Quarter-Life Crisis". It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing it too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere but that they are as confused as you.
You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.
Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't.
One minute you are insecure and the next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused.
Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. One-night-stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.
You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!
What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.
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posted by may at 6:18 AM
4 Comments:
haha, yea I've read about it. The funny thing, I realize is that humans have this strange need to name things. When they feel down at any point in their lifes, they have to give it a cheem title. They say acknowledging there is a problem is the first step to recovery. I wonder if this is what they mean. What do you reckon they'll come out with 1/8 life crisis next for children who don't feel all too good? Jokes aside, I reckon its a serious issue but this commentary is really too general, that it relates to everyone who is of an adult age. But then again, comment and wonder as much as we like, we will never really come up with a satisfactory solution. Its better just to get on with it.
*SIGH* i TOTALLY know what this 'quarter life' crisis is like... maybe not in every single tiny aspect, but most of it.
I think your friend above is right though... even tho it is titled a '1/4 life crisis', I think it shouldnt be so because it is something we all go through our adult lives to varying degrees. I think we just call it the 1/4 life crisis cos our minds are starting to think more about things (or have matured to the point where we start to think and question everything) where as teens/earlier on we are not so aware of things around us - relationships, what we want to do with our lives, etc... since we are too preoccupied with the now rather than the then/still to come.
Anyway, enough dissecting! :p A friend of mine prayed with me yesterday over the phone and she said something that really struck me - that whatever we think we have 'lost' in this life doesnt compare to the glory of heaven, and knowing our God in full, and the life to come. So true... Kinda puts things into perspective. Though hard to practise in our lives...
Oh btw May, ur blog is probably one of the more 'interesting' of my friends blogs. Nice to see ur varied entries from long to short, funny to serious, text to photo driven, trivial to God-centered stuff. I am still yet to do that 10 things I wish/want list (will prob do that now actually! :p) but might i be able to borrow this so I can show my friends? I think it might make alot of them think, even if they do not comment on it...
TQ! :D
p/s: sorry for writing a thesis of a comment on ur blog =p
yeah you are right... im sure adults at any point in life would go through all those things, it's just that it's more significant at the twenty-something/early-twenties stage because that's when you actually START thinking about such things. when you really step into adulthood from teenage, i suppose.
and thank you for your compliment, jenny - always nice and encouraging to know someone appreciates what i write (= i like to try and make my blogposts as 'diversified' as possible but of course that's just me.. oh and please please do the '10 things' post soon, i've been clicking on your URL almost everyday just to see if it's up already! (=
The post is now up!! :)
I think i put too many pics in tho... :p
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